What is Real?

 

Lately there has been lots of controversy on what a 'real woman' looks like. I hear many people say, "Only real women have curves!" But what about those of us who don't? Are we figments of your imagination? Or worse! Are we fake? I have been on both sides of the argument here. I was athletic and straighter than a ruler for nearly 18 years. Then I got curves. And let me tell you, I can work both very nicely. 

It just really bothers me that people tell women contradictory things. Fashion says, "Be skinny and be beautiful!" while the world says, "Curves are in! Have curves and you are real!" Then there is the side where everyone is saying that girls with muscles aren't pretty to look at. What?? What is a young girl supposed to think? No matter what she looks like, there is no way she can win. 

Personally, I think muscular girls are dang majestic. I mean, holy cow! You are a freaking disciplined, trained piece of machinery that can do things with the human body that I can't even fathom doing! You go girl. You work that athletic powerhouse of yours. Kudos for all the hard work you do to keep everything working smoothly and like it should. I have noodle-y limbs so seeing dancers and gymnasts and such move gives me goosebumps.

 You skinny girls pay attention now. You are the cutest, tiniest things! I just want to keep you in my closet as my pets and feed you M&M's through the door. Which.... sounds really creepy..... so I won't but I really do think you guys are adorable! And you can pull off so many outfits! That deep, deep v dress? No worries about it looking slutty. It just looks super chic. Jealous! Work that wonderful, wiry frame. There is nothing you can't wear and look awesome. I am a sucker for bones too. You can work cheek bones and collar bones and hip bones and spines like its nobody's business. Rock what you got.

  Curvy girls turn. Curves are amazing! I love them! And they can really work in your favor for certain styles. Ever heard of pinupgirlclothing.com ? They are curvalicious girls who work those hours glass bodies with grace. Plus, I feel like you can be super sassy to people and no one would question it. Maybe that isn't your thing but I feel like it would be an awesome trait to have. Men also like a little something to grab so that is a definite advantage! ....If you are into boys. If you are into girls, well then I guess you have to figure that out by yourself and report back. I have no experience there and can't really help you on that. Either way, if you go look at ancient works of art, being curvy (and naked) was very in and very beautiful to look at.

Yeah, obviously I just love all body types. I think the human body is stunning! Its really a shame that being naked is so sexualized. I have seen some really wonderful nude art and I actually would love being apart of it one day but I feel like it is looked at as porn anywhere in America. In Europe, they are a passionate people but art is art! Why can't the U.S. have more of that mind set? Maybe if we thought like that, people here wouldn't be ashamed or embarrassed by their bodies. Maybe if we changed the way we look at others, we can change our own perspectives about ourselves. I don't know, its just a thought I'm having here. Whether it is a genius thought or a mad one, you may decide.

Point is, no matter what your body looks like, just love yourself. How can you expect anyone else to if you can't? It takes a long time and you will have days where you just hate it but I promise, it is a great thing when you do. So much stress and worry just disappears and then more attention can be put on more pressing matters. Life is a lot more enjoyable when you feel good and you are happy with who you are.

Please remember, losing/gaining weight to look better is totally fine, IF ITS HEALTHY. Don't be stupid about it. Being healthy is way more important than being an 'ideal' size. After two weeks in the hospital, I lost 20 pounds. Great right? No way. It was awful. I looked like I had been living in a concentration camp and I could hardly walk down the hall to pee. And running? Bahaha! I would basically trip after two steps and face plant it. It was a little funny very sad to watch. Losing ten pounds a week is so harmful to your body. If it sounds too good to be true, it is. Just lose a little at a time and focus on being healthier and feeling better.

We just need a little love in this world. We need to change our mind sets and feelings toward ourselves. This is my blog so I get to say whatever I want on it. I am just hoping that what I say will have a positive effect on my readers. 

Love, Mika.